Over the past two years, I’ve brought you along on my book reading journey. I’ve covered a lot of ground since January 2021. In fact, I’ve read so many books I had a realization … are all professional development books the same?

I think the answer is: well, pretty much. I’ve discovered three core themes in all the professional development books I’ve read.

1. It’s OK to say no. Yes, really, it is. Nobody can say yes to everything – those who do risk the quality of their work, relationships and own well-being. What matters is how you say it. You can say no and still work your way to a yes.
2. Be honest with yourself – what is truly important in your life? This question is harder to answer than you think because you have to dig deep and ask yourself difficult questions. Similar to saying no, not everything can be a number one priority in your life. That doesn’t always mean you have to do something drastic like give up a career for your family – this perspective just helps you organize and maneuver life with a lot more clarity and, hopefully, more joy.
3. Take care of yourself. Don’t let yourself deteriorate. That sounds dramatic, but it’s true. Whether it’s building a better morning routine, moving and exercising more, drinking more water, etc., you need to prioritize you. It’s that simple. A better you leads to positive transformation in your life.

At the end of the day, what really matters is how you want to receive this information. It’s like a coach-versus-parent relationship. When my softball coach told me to open my eyes, I’d get a base hit. When my dad said it, I squeezed my eyes shut and prayed that Jesus would give me a home run.

I’m going to offer you recommendations I haven’t shared yet, through the form of self-reflective questions. Ask yourself:

• Do you respond to a stern, no-excuses military man? Go for Discipline Equals Freedom: Field Manual by Jocko Willink.
• Do you enjoy historical examples that have stood the test of time? Read The Power of a Positive No by William Ury.
• Are you interested in a Christian author with a little flair? Check out A Million Little Ways by Emily Freeman.
• Does a whimsical story with clever language sound appealing? The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho is for you.

I’d encourage you to explore what style of writing motivates you and find stories that drive you to read, learn and apply your learnings in real time. You might be surprised at the positive transformations a book will drive in your own life.